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Old 09-02-2009, 09:21 AM
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Sorry it's me again, i don't know what's going on with me, but i seem to be finding it harder and harder to accept why Joshua could only stay such a short time I miss him all the time but lately i am finding myself in tears more and more and keep wishing we maybe should have pushed for more agressive treatment ?????? i'm sorry i know i have said this before but i just can't seem to find peace in my head at the moment Last night i barely slept because each time i shut my eyes i was replaying a moment in Joshua's life

Sorry but just needed to talk.

no need to reply,

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Old 09-02-2009, 09:23 AM
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Bernie,

I am so sorry for your loss.

I simply can not imagine what you have been/are going through. I have no words of wisdom I am afraid, but just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you.

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Old 09-02-2009, 09:49 AM
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(((Bernie)))

I don't know what I can say to comfort you, the pain you suffer must be unimaginable.

Thinking of you

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Old 09-02-2009, 12:46 PM
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bernie .....((((((hugs))))))......no words ...will help.....thinkin of u......
julie xxx
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Old 09-02-2009, 03:55 PM
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Bernie, I am thinking of you. I think you did everything possible for dear Joshua, and I dont think you should have any regrets, I do hope you find some peace in time.

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Old 09-02-2009, 06:14 PM
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I dont know what to say really, just dont punish yourself ever, you did everything for that little boy and you know he loves you for it. Sometimes people are need for greater things, I loved this poem it helped me with my mc's hope it dosnt offend any one. xx

An Angel from the Book of Life

Wrote down my baby's birth

And whispered as she closed the book

"Too Beautiful For Earth"
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