Stress or the Big M?

[nattiej]

Hi all,

Once again I have a wayward AF. It's about CD51 and still nothing. My relationship is kak - not had sex for about 6 months now and since the last big row (about 3 weeks ago) we have slept in separate rooms. I am beginning to lose my love for Nick - he has too many issues and we have too much water under the bridge. I feel really sad.

It has been a difficult year all in all (when am I going to get an easy one eh) and perhaps this hasn't helped my cycle or maybe I am grasping at straws? Anyway I hate to sound cold but if it is really over in the near future then I have to start making plans for any remaining options for a baby! I will look into Clomid and sperm donor first and then maybe donor egg IVF in Spain or SA but that is later. I feel now that doing it alone would be much better as I was always worried that if we had a baby we would end up in slanging matches.

Natalie

[Judy]

Dear Nat,

These years for many of us are difficult enough, our hormones & as you put

it 'wayward af' make us much more emotional and things do seem so much

more difficult to deal with.

Your decision regarding your relationship must be so hard, particularly when

you hear the clock ticking so loudly.

I have no advice to give my love, just wish you all the luck in the world for

the future.

Hugs Judyxxx

[twinkleteds]

I ditto Judy there Nat

Not easy for you at all and if your relationship is strained it cant help the stress levels, stress does very funny things to our bodies which arnt always obvious to see with the eye.

Having a baby puts a lot of strain on couples too.

I hope you find a solution and if you can afford the treatment its worth looking into the options.

Hope alls well soon for you

Tina xx

[Ruth Walker]

Hello Nats
With all the strain you have had recently, I would say your absent AF is just as likely to be stress related as the big M. I think an initial go with the donor sperm would be worth a try, who knows, perhaps a dose of the right stuff from some strapping young donor might be just the ticket! If not, then pursue your dream via the donor egg route - if you are on your own, then you have no one to consult but yourself, so can take whatever decisions your heart tells you to. I can understand how sad you feel though, you have invested many years in your relationship with Nick. Luckily, though, you have kept your own life too, with pursuing your teaching career. I wish you all the very best in the future.
xxx

[Saharabreeze]

Nattie

I have no real pearls of wisdom except for I am really thinking of you and sending lot's of hugs. Stress can have such a major impact on our bodies both physically and emotionally that it is no wonder your AF is all over the place. A really tough decision to be made about your relationship but you have to do what is right for you. Be thinking of you and really looking forward to hearing about your journey on ds/de whenever you decide to start it.

Put yourself first.

Sb xx

[nattiej]

Thanks ladies,

I hope I have the conviction to go through with the break-up this time. I need peace in my life.

Natalie
x

[jomama]

(((Nat)))

Hope you come through this stronger and get your longed for little one .
J

[Liz1967]

(((Natalie)))

I think Ruth summed up my thoughts exactly in her post, so just wanted to add I hope your dreams come true, you deserve to be happy xxx

Take care
Love
Liz
xx

[teresa]

Nat
Big (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) from me all the ladies have said just what i would have," chin up kidda "
Teresa xxxxx