take it one step at a time

[hippy_chic]

Jay firstly sorry I didnt reply to your thread, it did start me thinking which is why I'm writing this and hoping its going to make sense....because at the moment so much does'nt.
The miscarriage forum has had more than its fair share of sadness over the past six weeks there is what five of us? If you could envisage us climbing out of a dark pit, I'm probably nearer the top than some of you, I slip sometimes, but I promise it does get better.
AF visited this week for the first time bringing a mixture of sadness (it would have been 22 weeks) and relief that she came at all She also brought her cranky bags so inbetween the tears I managed to accuse Chris of having an affair.....twice! considering he works Mon-Sat 12 hours a day I think in reality he would like the time to have a fling. We have a perfect sex life Its nothing he has done, its me feeling old and ropey. I also feel like I have failed at something that should be a womans natural ability (a feminist would kick my head in for that)
The only advise I can give you is, firstly, do some thing regularly that involves folding up the track pants and putting blusher on. We live near the Thames so we have been out a few night to some of the pubs that have river gardens. I have figleaves.com as a favourite and plan to get some weekend wear. Also I have tried to do some things with the kids a s their summer was spoiled, no holiday Rhys takes his GCSE mocks soon so we have to find a long weekend that suits everyone and go to France.
Take it one step at a time, dont look back to often and take hold of the hands that reach out to you

lots of love

[JayJay]

Andrea

Thank you for your words, they mean so much to me, that you took the time to do that for me. At the moment I am fighting that terrible feeing of being a failure, I know that I'm not but it feels it.

It seems that just recently so many of us have had the journey I am now making, it feels unfair to rob so many of they dreams. I plan to take this journey day by day, I know from my own and the other ladies expererinces that it takes time. That I won't need to be held in the night as the tears come on they own, but just now I am grateful there are so many people that hold out their hands to me

Jay

[ann]

Andrea

what a lovely post and so well said

love Ann

[pink3times]

Andrea,
your post is really reassuring and one I would have loved to have read 6 mths ago. I have moved right back up onto surface after the pit and I even feel like dancing around the hole. So time will continue to make things easier for you all to bear. We really are enjoying our family time together at the moment, lots of treats and days out appreciating what we already have not dwelling on what we have lost.
I am glad that you have this part of the forum to be amongst people who can support you and appreciate how you are feeling.
Rebeccaxx